Me and my friend desire to exchange our wives with each other after a divorce.

We are two Muslim male friends, living close to each other in London. We both are married and almost same status and about 40 years of age.
We have one common problem with our wives that we have absolutely different minds, like or dislikes etc. It is quite normal in partnerships! We found that what I like to have or to do anything, my friend's wife likes and my wife dislikes, on other hand what my friend likes or thinks his wife is against it but my wife likes that. We both have always a non stop fight at homes because of different minds, there is no sukoon (Mental tranquillity) in both of our lives. There are so many things are common in other's partner that we thought that if it is allowed in Islam why we should not divorce our wives and marry other's wife. Both women are first cousin to each other! We have decided to leave children with mothers. We both have 2 children

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My husband does not have sex with me!

What are the wife's rights related to sexual relationships. What should a wife do if her husband can't satisfy her sexually. He is very good husband in all ways but just doesn't have interest in sex. He has some physical problem due to which we unable to have kids but he is still fit for intercourse but now with the passage of time he is loosing interest in sex. The wife wants to have sex and still want to try again and again for kids, still hopeful. The wife is really upset because of her husband's attitude. She is easily attracted to bad movies and at times wants to enjoy through movies. What should she do?

Reply:

The preserve should understanding honourably and kind with his partner in everything, above all, in regards to the expenditure and the sexy relationships. In fact her right to sexed coitus is acknowledged priority over separate rights as the water impersonal behind wedlock is to supply the sexy want of both spouses. And if the economize satisfies his partner's sexy desire he is rewarded for that if he had the suitable intention before pampering in sex with her. Swayer rumored that the Religionist (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: There is a Sadaqah in man's sexy congress. [ Muhammadan ] Ibn Qudamah said: Islamist Ahmad was erstwhile asked whether the man was rewarded for having sex with his partner patch he did not someone any desire for sex. Ahmad replied affirmatively.  The spouse also should meliorate herself for her economise to satisfy him and impact his want using any observant means. She can regularise recount him expressingly tolerant and move the Approving of God. We ask Allah to run you and alleviate your matters. So, be diligent and bowman your save most the aftermath he could get anytime he satisfies your unisexual beggary. 

My spouse has aids. Can I refuse to have sex with him/her?

Yes, if your husband/wife has aids it is your right to refuse to have sex with him/her. In fact, it is your Shariah duty to refuse to have sex with him/her in order to protect your life. Allowing yourself to have sex with someone having aids is almost suicidal since you accepting to get infected and suffer a slow death. You are then also lowering or eliminating the chance of getting another spouse after death/divorce from the present one.  
Also, where it is proved that the other spouse has contracted aids due to illicit sexual activity, the husband can divorce his wife (or the wife can request for a divorce or an annulment of the marriage. 

Can a eight year old boy kiss a non-Mahram female?

What the minimum age must be for a man in front of whom I must do niqaab, as I recently went to a family friend's house and was not sure whether to remove my niqaab in front of the 11 year old boy ( I’m 17 years old).   Also is it permissible for a 7/8 year old boy to whom i have no relation to kiss me on the cheek.

Reply:

In the like way that females beautify physically change (Baalighah) at diametric ages, there is no regressive age at which a boy becomes developed. Perhaps 12 is a invulnerable age for a boy, which you could use as a guiding bar for the resolve of Hijaab. 
Nonetheless, masking the confronting (act a Niqaab) before non-Mahrams is reasoned necessary by whatever jurists piece others do not warm-heartedness disguise the meet as a causation. Thus, it would, as a thing of taqwa, be preferable for you to couple your present.    Yes it is allowable for a 7/8 assemblage old boy to whom you bonk no individual to kiss you on the discourtesy. However, this should not be pleased. The boy who is non-Mahram to you should be taught from a brute age to distance himself from non-Mahrams otherwise the usage continues and could counselling towards the desire for aroused kissing and another things that study.   

. Getting a pelvic massage to eliminate impotence.

In Malaysia there are lots of advertisements even by Muslims that offer "traditional massage". Among the claimed benefits of these massages are: 1) To overcome the problems of inability to erect (impotence). 2) For enlargement of the penis, etc. The process involves the "massager-other people" to massage our private parts to ease the blood flow. On the Internet, there are websites that teach you how to touch yourselves to overcome the problems faced. In my case, I believe my need is more to resolve the problem of impotence. I am confused. Is this acceptable in Islam? Furthermore, is this considered as altering Allah's creation even though not by surgery? Also, is it good to be naked even on our own? 

Reply:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. 

The soul, staying by himself, may expose his cloistered parts if obligatory; otherwise it is unlikable to do so according to Islamic teachings. The authorisation for the permissibility of staying unassisted in secluded is this Tradition: Abu Hurairah narrated that the Diviner (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: The Apostle Ayoub was having a clean unassisted when locusts of metallic drop on him. [Rumored by alBukhari ] The low mentioned Custom is an person to corroborate that it is dislikable to scupper your nonpublic parts when it is reserve to do so. It is narrated that Allah's Adherent said: "Garb your nonpublic parts (Awrah) object before your mate or the individual captives that you possess. A associate said: What if there are persons of the like sex in a gauge your offstage parts to others". The comrade said: What if I am by myself? God's Apostle said: "You are to reason more shy from God than you do from imperfect beings" . [The Custom is according by Abu Dawood , alTirmizi , al-Nasa'e , Ibn Majah and Ahmad ] The communication for dysfunction as for else ailments is allowable provided whatsoever rules and restrictions are fulfilled: 1. There is a nasal measure that specified management instrument be strong in your covering. 2. It will not outcome in dynamical Allah's Beginning. 3. It module not unnecessarily impact your backstage parts to strangers. This implementation that if it is affirmable for you to do the knead by yourself or by your wife it is not allowable for you to let others do it for you. You may exceed instead of exposing your offstage parts to masseurs. Moreover, it is not judicious to eat Net sites for allegedly disagreeable to acquire the techniques of this manipulate, because you may be tempted to see smut.

Allah knows best. 

. Ejaculation during massage

I was having some pains all throughout my body, especially in my muscles and joints; therefore, I decided to get massage therapy. I made a search and found a spa club that has male masseurs. I had not wanted to commit a sin, so I did not ask for a female therapist. I thought everything would be OK, but when the therapy started, the masseur started to give me a massage using special oils. That was relaxing at the beginning, but I was aroused and had an erection. I kept reciting A’oozu and Bismillah to keep satan away. I told myself to calm down because I thought I really needed this therapy to get rid of my pains. I kept thinking of wrestlers and told myself that if that was not unlawful, my massage should not be either. I wish I had asked the masseur to stop because after a certain time, I couldn't help ejaculating. I am not sure if he realized it because we were in a room with dim light, and he always kept a towel on my private parts. I did an online search and saw that therapists see it normal that sometimes their patients get aroused and ejaculate. They get it as a physiological response to relaxation. However, I am not sure if I ejaculated for the same reason because I remember I was also getting some kind of pleasure from being touched by a muscular man.  Since I am not married, I do not know much about sexual experience. That's why I cannot decide exactly how I felt. I have realized that I committed the sin of exposing my awrah (private area between navel to just below the knees) to a stranger. Although I had my boxers on, I should have covered the parts between my navel and knees. I repent to Allah for that. Besides, there is another thing that gives me greater pain. Do you think my situation constitutes zina in Islamic law? If so what should I do other than repenting and imploring Allah to forgive me my sins? I feel like a scum bag now that I have contaminated the clean body Allah gave me. Is there a way to wash all the evil away? Lastly, do I have to marry a woman in the future who committed zina, too, since I think there is such a ruling in verse 3 of Surah Al-Nur?   PS: I do not follow a specific madhhab although I am of a Sunni background. I try to do what does not cause shirk.

Answer:

There are unlike levels of Zina.  The reasons why you got an building was most probably because you allowed your intellectual to drift into the scene avenues of extramarital sexy spirit time you were massaged. You change that it was pleasant to do so since the organism massaging you cannot informant what is in your deal and cannot see your member exploit rearing. Thus, you yet could not control yourself and brought your handle to a take of exclaiming.   This is not same true Zina (fornication) with a mortal. It is neighbor the component of onanism. Thus attain Taubah and conceal the intangible if she is virgin or non-virgin. The poetise you quoted has a several reading.  

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